You are seeking a divorce, but you do not want to hurt each other anymore

You are seeking a divorce, but you do not want to hurt each other anymore.

In the nearly 100 divorce mediations I have facilitated, I often hear one or both spouses say something that alludes to this sentiment. They do not want to hurt each other anymore than they may already have. The marriage is ending, but it is evident that enough love remains to avoid any more harm. This is especially true when there are children involved. 

If it is someone's motivation to get revenge or do more harm, divorce mediation is most likely not the best choice. In those cases, it is best to seek out a lawyer that will not only buy into the adversarial approach, but also promote one.  

At Peaceable Divorce, my approach in mediation is to help a couple move forward in a non-adversarial way.

One of the most significant benefits of having a divorce mediator facilitate the necessary conversations is that it changes the dynamics significantly. You are no longer two people in a room with the same baggage and unsuccessful approach to having conversations. As a facilitator, I play a very active role in the conversation. I help each individual stay focused and I allow time for people to think before making any decisions.

Divorce mediation allows for a couple to be amicable and get through the process with as little stress as possible. 

I’m located in Mundelein but serve all the surrounding areas including Chicago and can also do online sessions.